Smrt může být klidná a blažená, říká pohřební průvodkyně. S babičkou jsem se o smrti bavila
Pohřební průvodkyně Renata na lesním hřbitově
Smrt může být klidná a blažená, říká pohřební průvodkyně. S babičkou jsem se o smrti bavila
"Oslovil nás asi pětapadesátiletý terminálně nemocný muž a my spolu s ním a s jeho rodinou připravujeme závěr jeho života. Jsem s ním v kontaktu, píšu pro něho řeč, kterou on odsouhlasí. Je to úžasný příběh. Když jsem je navštívila, tak mě fascinovalo, s jakou pokorou a smířením svůj osud přijímají."
Renata Svoboda, naše Ren, začala s pohřebnictvím, protože zkušenost s vyprovázením babičky ji otevřela dveře do úplně nového života.
Takového, ve kterém se chtěla věnovat umírajícím a těm, kteří po nich zůstali. Provázet rodinu od momentů před smrtí až po pohřeb a mnohdy ještě dál, je totiž také součást práce Pohřebních průvodců a my jsme jen rádi, že se toho Ren ujala s takovým citem a péčí.
Pokud vás její příběh a její povolání zajímá, přečtěte si o tom v novém článku na Flowee. Kromě toho třeba i o tom, zda se naše profese může proměnit v necitelný obchod se smrtí.
Naše kolegyně Renata vypráví pro Květy o tom, jak vyprovodila babičku na poslední cestě
Z povídání našich klientů víme, že strávit s blízkými jejich poslední chvíle je dar ♥️, který lidem mění život.
🛤️Naše kolegyně Ren Svoboda babičku na její poslední cestě vyprovodila v rodinném kruhu 👫
I to ji poté motivovalo stát se pohřební průvodkyní 🏡
Více o tom, jak to s babičkou řešila se dočtete v magazínu Květy 🌺
DVTV: A funeral should start sadly and end happily. Oleg Vojtíšek in an interview with Daniela Drtinová
Czechs have repressed death.
When we go through various media, we keep getting similar questions from moderators:
Is the majority of deaths really without a ceremony? (A large percentage yes)
What does a traditional Czech funeral look like? (It doesn't exist)
How does it work with funeral services? (Better somewhere, worse somewhere else)
What can you do with ashes? (Actually anything, but with respect and consent)
Everything shows that the topic of death is taboo in the Czech Republic, there are many myths circulating about it, and in reality most people have no idea what happens after a dead body appears.
That's why we're always happy to see Ms. Drtinová on DVTV really digging into reality, debating ethics in the funeral industry, and helping us uncover the great mystery surrounding death and funerals.
"No one's afraid of getting pregnant from talking about sex, but when they start talking about death, everyone's afraid they'll bring it on themselves," said our Oleg.
So, if you don't want everything to run on autopilot after the death of your loved one, start preparing now. Maybe by listening to us on DVTV.
Close Encounters: Tereza Kostková and Oleg Vojtíšek, Czech Radio: We've Isolated Young People from Death
😱"Is it really true that most deaths in our country go without a funeral?!" Tereza Kostková wondered in Close Encounters on Czech Radio Dvojka, where our Oleg was a guest.
We see people who still burst into tears twenty years after the death of a loved one.🥀 Without a funeral, you won't find closure, and it will torment you your whole life, especially if the death was sudden and unexpected.
The reasons vary: from traumatizing experiences at the crematorium to financial concerns. And sometimes it's also because of a well-intentioned idea that leads to hell – to avoid traumatizing children 👶 We've raised a whole generation of people who have completely suppressed death. And when it hits them, it's all the worse and deeper. 🔪
So, how do you do funerals honestly?
🏡In a beautiful place that uplifts you.
👨👨👦👦On a day that suits everyone who should and wants to be at the funeral.
💌In a way that helps you relieve guilt or say what would otherwise keep coming back to you.
Burning messages or sending messages on balloons or boats isn't esoteric at all. On the contrary, it's a very tangible and easily understandable way to put a final period on the relationship with the deceased, and then watch it leave us – because that's the reality. ⚫
👂If you want to explore the topic of Czech funerals in a similar way to how Tereza Kostková explored it, listen to us on Close Encounters on Czech Radio.
A beautiful funeral? Yes, it's possible. Oleg Vojtíšek for Marianne magazine.
To borrow the words of Oleg Vojtíšek, their organization's effort is to change something that was perceived as depressing, bad, and terrible into something beautiful that helps and reconciles.
"Fortunately, today you can organize a funeral ceremony according to your wishes," says Oleg Vojtíšek, founder of Funeral Guides, in an interview for Marianne magazine. Those who have done it this way agree that it was a beautiful experience.
"A funeral that is personal helps," confirms my assumption Oleg Vojtíšek, founder of Funeral Guides, an association that helps bereaved families organize a more personal farewell to their deceased.
"It should take place in a place that is connected to the person, where they liked it or where we want to go to remember them. For example, by the river, in the park, in the villa.
With people who loved him and they loved him, or maybe they didn't, but they want to reconcile," he continues.
"What makes me happiest is that people come up with their own ideas about where the ceremony will be and what will happen there. They call us with a specific idea, and we just help them refine it and make it happen. The result is truly their ceremony, personal, reflecting how the deceased lived and how they lived with them," she optimistically notes.
What does All Souls' Day mean to us today? Benedikt Mohelník and Oleg Vojtíšek, Czech Radio, Vertikála
"From a believer's point of view, we are debtors to our ancestors; we are here thanks to them. We live on debt from what we receive from previous generations. Saying goodbye to that person is the minimum repayment of that debt, and at the same time, we create value for the future for those who come after us and will live on our debt," said Benedikt Mohelník, director of the Dominikánská 8 platform and editor-in-chief of the revue for theology and spiritual life, Salve.
Our Oleg Vojtíšek debated with him on the Vertikála program on Czech Radio.
And they discovered an interesting thing: religious rituals and our alternative ceremonies can go hand in hand. Because art is not about destroying traditions, but updating them.
Take All Souls' Day, for example. Typically, it is celebrated in the cemetery by laying flowers in a close family circle. But you can also invite friends and colleagues, perhaps on the anniversary of the death, so you don't have to be alone. After all, tradition dictates that we remember the deceased: not that it has to be on that particular day in that particular place.
In order for traditions to serve us, it is good to adapt them to our needs in the modern world. And neither we nor modern representatives of the church are against that.
How does Halloween help our children?
Why is it necessary to hold a funeral?
And last but not least: did they cut out Oleg when he completely forgot what he actually wanted to say?
Find out in the new Vertikála.
Czech Television: Adriana Kábová on Lucie Výborná's Excellent Show - Why was she buying doll clothes?
📺 Our Adriana was on Lucie Výborná's Excellent Show.
👦 They filmed it a while ago. Adriana isn't pregnant anymore; she's given birth to a happy little boy!
👨🚀 You can find out where her husband is really from.
🌏 How long a deceased person stays at home on the Indonesian island of Sumba.
🌍 How the flu is treated in Madagascar.
🧸 Why she was buying doll clothes.
💀 And, of course, why she became a funeral guide.
TN.CZ / NOVA: Interview with Oleg Vojtíšek about the role of Funeral Guides
🖤 What is a funeral actually for? Oleg Vojtíšek talked about it on TN.CZ.
1️⃣ First, you need to realize that the deceased is no longer here, that this is the real end of their earthly journey. A funeral in a ceremonial hall or crematorium is the only thing that will fulfill this for us. But nothing else.
2️⃣ A good funeral will help you say what you didn't manage to, couldn't say.
3️⃣ To come to terms with - death, the deceased, relatives, but also with yourself.
4️⃣ Try to achieve forgiveness - if I owe something to my father who died, then return it to the widow or son, for example.
5️⃣ Involve the community in mourning - such as colleagues or neighbors.
6️⃣ And celebrate the life of your loved one - we've already noticed that they died, but now we should celebrate how they lived and how we lived with them.
A good funeral helps you say goodbye, come to terms, take a breath, and move on. Because mourning only begins with the funeral.
Czech Radio Radiožurnál: Adriana Kábová as a guest of Lucie Výborná. After a bizarre experience with a funeral service after the death of my child, I decided to change the funeral industry in the Czech Republic.
Adriana Kábová is an anthropologist and funeral guide.
Already during the research of Indonesian cultures, she got to traditional funerals, during which animals are sacrificed. "Even though my topic was not originally funeral service, in Indonesia I participated in funerals in the front row," she describes.
After her own experience with the death of a baby, she decided to change the funeral industry in the Czech Republic and became a funeral guide.
What does this work entail?
And how did she cope with the loss of a child?
Death isn't the opposite of life, it's a part of it, says funeral guide Oleg Vojtíšek on Czech Radio Plzeň.
The Funeral Guides association often organizes funerals in nature, but also in a villa or lounge. "Planting trees is already a great tradition. A tree is a beautiful living memory, it gives us shade and moisture, we have to take care of it a little, and as it grows, we come to terms with the loss. Or we have clients write down on paper what they didn't get to say to the deceased, we fold the papers into boats and let them go down the river. Messages can also be written on balloons, which we release. Our specialty, for example, is that in a balloon we can release the ashes of the deceased into the stratosphere," described Oleg Vojtíšek.